Update: 27/8/2008. I have not named anyone and just want to clearly point out that I wanted to share my feelings at the time so that this doesn’t happen in the future to someone else. I had no intention of insulting anyone in return. So I apologize to that person if they felt that this blog post was inappropriate. Again, this is a blog where I discuss, criticize, rant, share, etc… If there is something that offends anyone, please send me a message with a kind request to remove the offending material and it’ll be considered seriously.
I was initially going to post about yesterdays meeting and talk about what happened but I had to get this off my chest.
Guys, if you’re an expat, and you don’t understand Qatari culture, don’t assume. Just ask. I know it’s hard because different people have different requirements. Yesterday I was having a good time but I was embarassed by someone. She came up to me, shook my hand and leaned forward for the hello pecks (peck on the cheek not my huge muscular pecks of course), and as I leaned forward she pulls back and says, “oh you’re Qatari” and after an awkward smile she walks off. I imagine that the best solution would be to decide whether you are going to lean forward or not before saying hello lol.
I will not say this anymore clearer, that is amazingly insulting. If someone is leaning forward or extending their hand you don’t say ‘NO’ unless it’s against YOUR culture. Some Qatari women who are religious will not shake hands, most will. In our culture you do a cheek to cheek to say hello to a good friend (men with men, women with women) but it’s become more common for men and women to also give each other a cheek to cheek. (on a side note it’s THREE WITH THE RIGHT CHEEK! DONT MAKE A MISTAKE).
Oh well, hopefully someone’s learned from this. If you’re not sure, just ask, otherwise if someone extends their hand or even offers a hello peck, a rejection is extremely insulting to Qataris.
On a side note here’s the pattern of kissing in different gulf countries so you don’t have some ‘close’ moments.
Qatar: Three on the right.
Bahrain: Right, Left, Right
Kuwait: Right, Left, Left
Saudi: Right, Left
Everyone (safe way): Right, Left
Don’t ask me why, that’s just culture.